Tinder stabbing survivor 'felt like a murder victim'
A woman who was stabbed and doused in petrol by her ex-boyfriend has wiped away tears, as she told a court she has to be a voice for murder victims.
“I felt like I owed it to all the women who have been murdered to kind of be their voice,” Dr Angela Jay told a court today.
The obstetrics and gynaecology specialist was 28 years old when she met Paul Lambert on Tinder.
“I guess I was first attracted to him because he seemed a bit more mature … He seemed very charming and made me laugh,” she said.
But the relationship escalated quickly and it became clear he was more “smitten” than she was.
“I didn’t want to be in it anymore because I didn’t feel the same,” she said.
When she tried to end the relationship, he sobbed uncontrollably, threatened to commit suicide and then began stalking her.
“It went from intense to feeling very uncomfortable and then it turned into feeling a bit more afraid.”
In one text message, 36-year-old Lambert warned Dr Jay: “I need you to understand that this is my good side right now. The good side won’t last long.”
In November 2016, he jumped out of her wardrobe and grabbed her, then when she tried to escape he stabbed her 11 times and doused her in petrol.
As neighbours tried to save her, he led police to the Pacific Highway near Bonville where he was shot dead by officers.
At an inquest into Lambert's death, Dr Jay broke down as she spoke of a difficult few years.
“After everything that happened I basically kind of felt like a murder victim for a while and I sometimes still do,” she said.
“It’s just really weird that I didn’t die, I felt like I was supposed to.”
She also paid tribute to NSW Police describing them as heroes who have allowed her to live her life relatively normally.